I know you’re all very busy these days, but don’t forget that over the years I’ve learned a little, and maybe I can help or at least answer some of your questions about things that may be troubling you.  Maybe you can’t talk to your folks, or not even your Bubbe.  Well, I’m here for you.
Here’s a letter that may sound familiar to you.

Nov 24, 2008
Dear Bubbe,
I know I haven’t called you lately, but I want you to know that I still love you very much.  My friend has a problem so she came to me for help.  I don’t know what to tell her, and I was hoping you could give me some advice.  She’s 18 like me, and her parents want her to go away to college.  Her boyfriend is going to community college so she wants to stay home and do the same.  What should I tell her?  Love, Melissa

Dearest Melissa,
Your friend definitely needs to be honest with her parents.  She should come to them with a few alternatives like going to community college for one semester, and then if she gets good grades and shows them how much she is learning maybe they’ll see it’s good for her to be at home for awhile.  After all, maybe it’s not just her boyfriend that she doesn’t want to leave but her family too.  Your friend must  realize though that she is also missing a unique opportunity to grow with her peers by not going away to school.  On the other hand she could consider that her parents really love her and want her to have what they were not able to so she could tell them that she’ll go away to school as long as it’s only a few hours away, and she’ll stay for one year.  She could ask them if she can come home at least once a month, and that after a year if she still wants to come back home and go to community college, it will be OK with them.

Melissa, if your friend and her boyfriend are really in love, do you think that being a few hours away from each other will make the love stop.  No my darling,  I promise you that true love stays true despite what can seem like harsh conditions.  Please let me know what happens as Bubbe is very interested in your life. 

Love, Bubbe

This Bubbe loves to give advice so send me your questions, and maybe I can help.  You can email them to Bubbe@theschmooze.org.

Note:
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